The 3-view Mirror #7/777

I was having a conversation with a girl last night who was in one of my class.  She was frantic about the upcoming test today, because she missed class on Tuesday.  Understandable, miss a 3 hour lecture in a 7 week summer class might not be the best for your grade.  That also doesn't exclude you from getting an A.  It's one of those classes you really won't remember anything you learned from it.  The material is shoved down your throat, and then immediately there is a test or a series of essay questions to answer.  It's pretty easy actually to do well in the class because the professor knows it's to much for a summer class.  He kinda gives us the answer...(in a non-hidden way).  So when she asked for help, I couldn't give her term definitions, or the types of Agencies are out there.  When she called I didn't know any of the information myself.  I tried to explain to her what he said in class and sent her an e-mail with the key notes and what she should know for today.

That was a nice thing to do right?  Think again...

I was totally rude and inconsiderate when trying to tell her what he had talked about in class.  I was frustrated myself (although she wouldn't have known it), trying to figure out why I can't remember a damn thing he said in class.  I basically ended up telling her she wasn't dumb, or slow, but know one can comprehend all that material in such a short amount of time. Wanna guess how she interpreted my tone and conversation?  I was rude, I was questioning her intellect, and she doesn't want to take any more classes with me and another friend because we "compete" in classes.  I happy she told me that, so that I can take a step back and see what happened.

1. She's Pretty
2. Because of that I was trying to act like I knew what I was talking about, when really I was mad at myself for not being able to help her.
3. My friend and I do "compete", I use quotes cause there is no competition in the classroom, just seeing who got the better grade.
4. She doesn't like that all.
5. I do horrible on the spot when it comes to pretty women, and trying to make them feel at east.  In fact, I do the exact opposite, I make them more nervous.  I think I instantly bring out the worse situation, and in my head it lets them know it likely won't happen.  They think it automatically will happen.
6. I then try to simplify what the problem is as easily as possible for me.

At this point people think I'm calling them a retard.........I'M NOT!

So now I've realized to take a look at myself first.  Is this conversation even going to be beneficial for the person calling, or am I doing it for my own selfish reasons?  Am I able to even give this advice, without putting  myself on top, and then seeing peoples errors? And the 3rd side of the mirror is what everyone else can see.  The Leveler, classmates, professors, friends, family, anyone really.  It's kind of embarrassing, but we all do it, so I'll continue to live.

Go out and by a 3-view mirror, another free item you can buy at UR-BRAIN.  God, I love all these free gifts.

Quote of the Post: "Between the great things we cannot do and the small things we will not do, the danger is that we shall do nothing."  ~Adolph Monod